If You Keep Doing What You Are Doing, Then You Will Keep Getting What You Are Getting

January 2018 was the month that I made promises to myself and set intentions and goals for the year ahead.  Some of them were completely head-centered like "we are expanding into real estate"

Looking back, that was a goal that we felt we should move towards because we saw an opportunity to help people and make money. 

Might I highlight a few words: 

  • "we" - because my thinking consisted of a group instead of a single unit

  • "should" - need I say more

  • "make money" - which is never a good reason to go after something


Fast forward to May 2018 and I was pretty annoyed with my lack of progress.  I knew I wanted something different than what I kept saying yes to.  

But I couldn't figure out how.  Why was I having such a hard time uttering the word "no"? 

Keep doing what you're doing,
you' ll keep getting what you're getting.

I didn't want that mess of a life anymore, yet I couldn't pull the plug.  I couldn't even find the dang thing to yank it out of the wall.

So off to vacation we went for Raymond's birthday.  One glorious week of exploring two towns in NC.  As the vacation was coming to an end, I could feel my chest tightening up.  

I didn't want to come back home.  

I didn't want to return to the life that I had created.  

Once home, I found myself standing in yet another driveway behind yet another checkout table faking my joy to all who came to that estate sale.  On the outside I was smiling and happy, on the inside I was yelling at myself.  

The next week I asked for help.  I signed up to work with an amazing woman who helped me find that plug and jerk it out of the wall.  

What followed was six months of internal work where I turned inside to figure out what was going on in there so I could then in turn change the outside.  

I was scrolling through my mentor's Instagram today and I ran across this:
"If you are unhappy, that's on you"

At first, I was offended!  I mean, come on Rach, couldn't you have sugar coated that for us.  But then I realized that sometimes the truth shouldn't be covered up.  Sometimes it needs to land like a load of bricks.  

The New Year means nothing if you are still in love with your comfort zone. 

I can speak from experience because I wasn't in love with my comfort zone but I was too afraid to leave it. I decided to leave that relationship when I had finally had enough. 

This is the second week of a new month and a new year.  The time passes like clock work and there is nothing that we can do to slow it down.  The question is, what will you do with it?  

Will you be intentional with your yes? 

Will you be firm in your no? 

Will you set boundaries so you can create
space for yourself?

Jennifer Burnham